In response to a series of tweets and a gushy Facebook message Schoan sent her way, Spelman told him she had a boyfriend and wished him well.
But as many other women online and IRL have experienced firsthand, all was not well.*This prompted Jessica Roy at The Cut to wonder whether a best way to turn down a guy even exists.
In the sex-positive, gender-fluid LGBTQI (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex) and feminist worlds, the term “heteronormativity” is frequently used.
However, it’s not part of our everyday vernacular and most people have no idea what it actually means.
I don’t actually find that lesbians are more capable than straight men of making up the rules as they go along.
It’s just that the rules they conform to aren’t as well known in mainstream culture.
As a cis bi woman who has dated lesbians, I think your analysis of how cis bi women function in lesbian relationships is missing a few things.
We assume men have "masculinity" and women have "femininity."Heteronormativity normalizes male-female attraction.(To be fair, I’m in SF where there is a long and well established queer culture.Things may be more flexible in other places.)I’d also argue that some of straight privilege is ."Women aren't looking for a ' Hot or Not'," Her founder Robyn Exton .By promoting traditional gender roles or only allowing users to identify as cisgender, virtual dating platforms make it easy for straight people to navigate the dating world, but not necessarily everyone else.